Week 4 Coaching Faheem

Faheem drew upon his vast experience in humanistic therapy as we discussed Kantor's four fields. He is going to focus on being a bystander, honing his listening and observational techniques. Faheem's marital relationship is a constant place for his own dialogue growth. He seeks to open the lines of communication with his wife and they re-learn about the other. He is not uncomfortable listening but just needs to develop this skill further.

For conversation two, Faheem has been talking with a coffee shop acquaintance about starting a world cafe. He articulated the four fields of conversation and they are currently developing and discussing questions. He is now challenged as the expert and feels compelled to fully understand the concepts to act as a coach to this gentleman and others.

The third uncomfortable conversation relates to the first as Faheem attempts to reconnect the relationship with his wife. The role change has been difficult and he sees this as an opportunity to begin again. He concerned about her dependency on him and seeks to guide her towards independence. This is in direct contrast to the social climate of their country and Faheem must gently ease her into conversations without falling into the trap of politeness. He sees this as a challenge but has clear goals and means by which to attain them.

As Faheem and I deepended our relationship, I was more apt to chime in with questions and comments. It was wonderful conversing with him and getting a different insight upon the practical applications of the learning models. I realized through our exchange that I must let go of my own insecurities with the material. I simply may not be ready to progress through downloading to seeing at this point in my maturity and experience. However, I will have a working knowledge of the conceptual future goals for my own development.